And I’m back. After my work trip, I was home for a week and was busy preparing for our two-week trip to Virginia for the holidays. We spent some much-needed quality time with my family and friends. Especially for Eva, who loved spending time with her aunts, uncles, grandparents, and cousins (she LOVED the attention and playing with everyone). Now, back to reality.
So the world didn’t end and it’s a new year. Have any of you made any new year resolutions? I try not to make “new year” resolutions. I personally don’t think you should wait until the new year to make a lifestyle change. If you feel passionate about it, you do it. You could start at the beginning of the year, sometimes later. But here are a couple of things I’d like to do this year. Again, I’m not going to say resolution because these are things I’d like to achieve eventually (not necessarily this year). Some of these goals are things I wanted to achieve when I was 28 and wasn’t able to get to due to my pregnancy.
Be the change you want to be. All my goals listed below basically come back to this. You all know the quote from Gandhi “Be the change you want to see in the world.” I want to be that change; professionally, as a mom, a wife, sister, daughter, friend, blogger, and as ME. Being a mom has put a perspective on what kind of world I’d like my daughter to live in. I want to see that mine and the hubs’ kindness, whether it be well received or not by others, is important in this world that can be cruel at times. I think the goals below will make me a better well-balanced me.
Exercise more. This is one roller coaster of a goal. In the past, I’d be good for a couple of months and then I get sick or go on a trip and all my efforts go out the window. But I want to work out as a lifestyle, not to lose weight, which was my main reason for working out before. (I can proudly and happily say I lost all my pregnancy weight by eating somewhat healthy (everything in moderation) and breastfeeding (it worked for me); however, my clothes fit odd now. I definitely need to start toning.) I’ve said this before but I do want to run a 5k, 10k, or half marathon to say I’ve done it (even though I hate running). I’d also love to get into Yoga or Zumba or even Bootcamp classes. I’d love to get better at snowboarding. After a season of not being able to go due to pregnancy, I’m finally able to snowboard once again. But I’m basically relearning from scratch. I’d also love to go on hikes and be more outdoorsy. California has so much to offer when it comes to the outdoors and year round too! These are all things I want to do for a healthy lifestyle so that I can keep up with my mobile baby, who seems to be moving more and more everyday (Sigh. Oh no!).
Be more money savvy. I always try to save, but things come up (Christmas, birthdays, trips, etc.) which throws my budget off. It’s tough. I need to be better at it. This is something I constantly try to work on. I also want to be better at managing my 401k. Be better versed and knowledgeable about the investments I choose to make. I’m hoping that if I’m better at doing this, I’ll eventually start buying stock, even though it’s not the same (but reading about financial news may help). This also means using the resources I have at home and instead of buying something new, recreate and repurpose, aka DIY projects/be crafty.
Take more food adventures. You all know I LOVE food. But this means taking cooking classes and being more adventurous in the kitchen and definitely cooking at home more often, which goes with being more money savvy. Most of my credit card charges are eating out. And not eating out at new places, they’re places we go to all the time (which is not a bad thing, especially with an infant, you need reliable go to food options). So while I’d like to cook more often at home, I’d also like to be a little bit more selective about where we go when we do eat out and try new gems.
Take more pictures. We bought our fancy camera when we found out we were pregnant, but I still don’t feel like I’ve used it as much as I should. We definitely got use of it during our baby announcement video, but I’d like to really get into photography for this blog and to take more pictures of Eva. I haven’t been good about taking her monthly photos. When we came home from vacation and uploaded our pictures, we were disappointed with the lack of pictures we took. It was Eva’s First Christmas and we both felt like we should’ve taken more photos with something other than our cell phones. But it’s just so convenient! It’s right there! 😛
Plan a trip. I want to go on a vacation abroad this year. I don’t know if that’ll happen but a girl can dream. Although, a lot of this is dependent on the money-saving aspect.
Read more. Read more baby development books, although I’m told “Why are you reading these types of books? We (our parents) didn’t read any of this nor did we have the internet and you’re (me or the hubs) perfectly fine.” Sigh. Read more books to Eva. Read more books for my own leisure. Read the bible in its entirety. Read the news more.
Blog improvements. This goes without saying, blog more and network more. Develop blogosphere friendships. Work on a face lift for the site. Work on a name change. This blog, even though many don’t read it at the moment, is something I love and cherish. I’d like to continue working on it and making it something potentially great!
Pray more. This goes with reading the bible and just praying more. Not asking God for things, just praying. Giving him thanks for everything that has come or will come my way.
Be more positive. I can easily let the negativity get to me. With Eva around, I don’t want her to pick up on such negativity. I want to be more positive. It’ll make me a better mother, wife, daughter, sister and friend. I think praying more will help with this also. Along with this be more kind to myself of all things, since I’m my own worst critic.
Bring back the romance. Since Eva has been born, I feel like I’ve been more Eva’s mommy than the hubs’ wifey, which isn’t a bad thing. I concentrate so much on her needs that our needs as a couple gets pushed aside at times. It’s easy to fall into this trap especially with an infant that is dependent on you. The hubs isn’t complaining at all but I do miss quiet nights with him (which can be skewed as selfish. whatever). With sleep training starting this week, I’m hoping that soon enough the hubs and I can have more nights to enjoy between the two of us again. Even if it is to watch our favorite TV show or movie on the couch.
Bring Eva on more playdates. Eva loves people. She loves meeting new people and playing with other kids, which the hubs and I noticed while on vacation. But this is a bit hard since the hubs and I work during the weekdays. Even though I do work from home, my schedule isn’t as flexible as others that work from home. My hours are basically 9-5, which makes it hard to go on playdates, as most of these occur between 9:30 – 3:30 on weekdays. Playdates on the weekends are a no go as well because that’s when the hubs and I really try to have quality time between the three of us. We’re going to try to go on some playdates. There’s also the other option of Eva going to daycare.
Yes, it’s a long list. But these are goals I’d like to achieve eventually or will continue to strive to do. They won’t be overnight changes. Some of them I won’t complete this year and I’m okay with that. With a baby, having a full time job, having me time, having couple time, etc. some things just take the back burner and it’s okay. I’ve struggled with that concept before. I try to work on everything at once and get burnt out and get upset at myself. But I can say I have been better about letting go. Some days are harder than others, but having a great husband remind me that things can wait and I don’t have to get to everything, with no judgement, is helpful. (Sidenote: I love my husband. He makes me a better person, wife, and mother.)
What are your new year’s resolutions or goals?